Time for Flats: Vol 3
Well, as evidenced by last week’s episode, third time is definitely NOT the charm. I don’t know why I was expecting differently from Episode 4 this week on Pregnant in Heels.
Since Episode 1 of this disastrous “reality” series, there have been questionable incidents and even more questionable advice, all given by “maternity guru” Rosie Pope. Rosie is known for designing maternity clothes and diaper bags that are sold in her store on the Upper East Side, as well as online and at various other retailers. She also gave birth to her second son in February. Yes, she’s a mompreneur living the dream.
However, being a mother and dress designer does not an expert make. So here we go:
For the sake of my sanity I am not going to address Michelle and the religious issues or Rosie’s ridiculous request for her to assemble a breast pump without having seen one before.
Poor Mina. She’s due in one week and has zero experience with babies. I am not going to discuss her ridiculous behavior, as that was surely enhanced for television—at least I hope it was. What I will address is Rosie’s completely bogus advice. Mina’s home office was being transformed into their nursery. Great. I deal with this with clients all the time. One thing I don’t do is go in and belittle my clients because they are not prepared—no matter how soon their delivery date is. Rosie tells Mina that the room was messy, the changing pad wasn’t affixed to the changing table and that it wasn’t a safe environment for the baby to come home to. Well, I looked at that crib. It looked assembled. There was nothing in the crib—-
BUT WAIT!!! What goes in a crib according to Rosie Pope???
She spoke about suffocation risk in the crib and how nothing goes in the crib but the sheet and baby. Am I hallucinating? Didn’t she have a client in episode one with a sleep positioner and crib bumpers? It seems she cannot make up her mind, so in this episode she played it safe.
Here we go. Rosie’s remarks regarding C-Sections and epidural use.
Rosie remarked twice on Episode 4 that C-Sections are easy because you just “lie there.” Again, I am not here to judge any woman’s choice of a birth plan, but I find it disgusting that a woman who said her best interest is the “health of mom and baby” to speak of major abdominal surgery like this. A C-Section should be used when the health of the mother and/or baby are at risk. There are numerous studies about the adverse affects of elective C-Sections. According to the site AMuchBetterWay.com:
- “Birth by cesarean…puts women at increased risk for infection, hemorrhage, blood clots, complications the require rehospitalization, chronic pelvic pain, and worse physical health…more likely to result in babies born prematurely, who have respiratory problems severe enough to require admission to intensive care, and who have difficulties breastfeeding. Regardless of whether the first cesarean was planned, women and their future babies face risks arising from the uterine scar and surgical adhesions. Women are at higher risk for infertility, ectopic pregnancy, including “cesarean scar ectopic pregnancy,”…life-threatening problems with placental attachment, and uterine scar rupture…Babies who develop and grow in a previously scarred uterus are at excess risk of unexpected fetal demise after 34 weeks of gestation, preterm delivery, and of being underweight for their gestational age”
According to AmericanPregnancy.org, risks to baby include:
–premature birth if the gestational age wasn’t calculated correctly
–low APGAR scores
Many people believe that babies born via C-Section also have lowered immunity because of not being exposed to bacteria in the groin area of the mother during delivery.
Again, not judging, but women planning on having elective C-Sections really should be properly educated about their risks, NOT told they’re fine and that you “just lie there.”
Rosie also said in this episode regarding pain or anxiety about birth “as soon as you get your epidural this disappears.”
You know what else disappears with an epidural? OXYTOCIN. This “love hormone” actually helps the uterus contract, so when that’s gone you crank up the artificial version called Pitocin. Although still effective in causing contractions, this often makes the contractions more painful, so more meds are needed. This can all mess things up quite a bit, and then a cesarean might be needed. Pitocin also doesn’t cross the blood/brain barrier so it doesn’t have the other positive effects of Oxytocin, one of which is the initial bonding instinct of mother to child and the ability to cope with pain.
An epidural can also cause a drop in blood pressure. A drop in blood pressure decreases oxygenated blood supply to the baby, causing “fetal distress” and probably a cesarean.
Epidurals can also cause uncontrollable shivering—I’ve seen this happen to my own mother.
Other risks from an epidural for the Mother include: increased risk of episiotomy, you’ll get a catheter, increased risk of internal fetal monitoring (in which a monitor’s wire is corkscrewed into the baby’s scalp and cannot be removed until after delivery), and a decreased ability to push (which means vacuum or cesarean).
Risks of an epidural on the baby include: fetal distress and abnormal fetal heart rate, drowsiness at birth and a poor sucking reflex (again, affecting breastfeeding).
Again, not to judge women who have epidurals—sometimes their positive effects can also outweigh the possible bad—and, as one reader commented a few weeks ago I’ve not had a marble push through my penis, so I have no idea. All I know is that I don’t judge—I just help women get connected to educators who can help them better evaluate their own path and choices.
Rosie, please stick to dresses. Someone decided to put you in a position to be an “expert” but this shouldn’t mean you get to flaunt your “expertise” around like this. Stick to the facts. If a woman decides to have an elective cesarean or an epidural after she’s made aware of all of this (and lots more I don’t have the background to effectively discuss) then that’s her prerogative. Your job, and mine, should be to act as an advocate for parents. We should strive to constantly train ourselves so that we can better educate expectants and help them make more educated choices.
But I’m not a parent, or a mother, so what do I know? See you next week.